DO WE NEED A “GAY DADS DAY”?
March 1st, 2019, was the first time the term “Gay Dads Day” was used around the world. A day to celebrate families made up exclusively of two dads. To be more specific, gay dads who’ve chosen to be parents through adoption, surrogacy or fostering.
As I’ve mentioned before in the blog, I’ve always wanted to be a dad, and I knew that it would happen one day, either as a single parent or with a partner. 2012 will forever be the year life as I knew it, changed! Firstly, my now husband, Darren, decided he wanted to be part of a journey to parenthood that I’d dreamt of for years and secondly it was also the year that we got married.
It seems surreal now but at the time that we decided to become dads, there weren’t many other gay couples that were parents. Admittedly, there were plenty of gay couples around us, but not that many that were fathers. For many, fatherhood was and still is, the furthermost thought from their minds. A few years later, it’s awesome to see so many other gay couples with kids in toe, walking around the malls or at family restaurants. When our son reached school-going age, most of the schools we approached were welcoming of same-sex couples but there weren’t any other gay dads or lesbian moms with kids at the school. This year we were told by the school that our son is enrolled at that we’re not the only ones and that there’s also a lesbian couple with a child at the school!
To be clear, “Gay Dads Day” is not yet a globally recognized day. It is a day that was initiated by gay dad Matthew Hodgson-Fopp to celebrate being gay and a dad. In his own words…
“I have no real idea why I came up with this idea but I think it’s a cool idea which we should embrace.“
That said, I ask, do we really need it?
There’s already Pride Month where the LGBT community celebrate being gay. In the US the month of June was chosen for LGBT Pride Month to commemorate the Stonewall riots, which occurred at the end of June in 1969. In South Africa, it’s celebrated in both February and October depending on the province you reside in. Come June in South Africa, we also celebrate Fathers Day. A special day to honour fathers and fatherhood regardless of how you became a dad.
For everyone else that celebrated the day, I hope that there will be many more. We will continue to embrace Fathers Day in June as the month in which we celebrate the fact that hubby and I are now parents through adoption.