Why we should say ‘Sorry’ often to our kids?
The other day as hubby walked out the house he waved to our son and promised him that he would be home early so that they could go out to the local park together.
By the time hubby arrived it was dark, cold and really too late to go anywhere.
There was a multitude of words from hubby to our son, but none that said:”I’m sorry”.
As kids often do, by bedtime, that he had not gone to the park as promised had been forgotten.
I have a problem with what happened though.
I don’t want their relationship to be one of filled with empty promises and no apologies, due to the lack of ability to fulfil what you as a parent had agreed with your child. As a parent, I don’t think we should be ok with because they are still so young to understand, as a parent it then makes it OK to disappoint them and not apologize for it. Happy with the notion that “they will get over it”.
WHY IT’S IMPORTANT TO APOLOGISE
Firstly because it teaches your toddler/children accountability.
As a toddler, your child learns faster from our actions. It’s incredible how true this is. So many times lately I have to stop myself from laughing as my son’s response to a situation would mimic one of mine or that of hubby’s. Children pick up on both our wrong and right behaviours quickly, they are like sponges at this age.
It’s incredible how true this is. So many times lately I have to stop myself from laughing as my son’s response to a situation would mimic one of mine or that of hubby’s. Children pick up on both our wrong and right behaviours quickly, they are like sponges at this age.
Lately, I have had to stop myself from laughing as my son’s response to a situation would mimic one of mine or that of hubby’s. Children pick up on both our wrong and right behaviours quickly, ok sometimes it feels like they pick up the bad habits at a faster rate, they are like sponges at this age.
Following the incident with hubby, I believe it’s important that Darren apologizes to our son. Being the adult, hubby may think that he has no reason to say “sorry”. My dad thought like this for the longest time. By apologizing hubby teaches our son:
- accountability by acknowledging that dad made a mistake
- to make amends with the person who was let down by saying “I’m sorry”
- the importance of taking the other person’s feelings into account
Not all situations need an apology though.
Some instances are an opportunity for a lesson for the toddler.
Like when a child decides they want to interrupt a conversation because they want your attention to be directed towards them, a lesson opportunity, that of patience. There’s no need to apologise in this instance. Be firm and ask them to be patient. Easier said than done…I know!
As parents we want our children to be well-behaved and respectful towards others.
Let’s begin by respecting our kids.
Say “Sorry” when as the parent you’re in the wrong, you will eventually see a similar behaviour replicated in your child.
Apologising to your child is a way of fixing a “broken” relationship with them.
It’s a form of love.
Do not buy them a gift as well when you’re apologising to your toddler/child, as this only teaches them the wrong lesson. That love can be bought. You don’t want to buy their love, you want to teach them to make an emotional repair.
Do you apologise to your child?
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